Relationship Violence Archives - Human Options

Success Stories: Maddie’s Story

When two year old Maddie first arrived at our emergency shelter, she showed no emotions and wouldn’t talk to anyone. Spending her first two years of life in a constant state of chaos, she suffered from severe developmental, emotional and behavioral problems.   Relationship violence has a tremendous impact on brain development. From delayed verbal and motor skills, anxiety and depression, to difficulty identifying and expressing emotions, the effects of trauma can be deep rooted and long lasting in young children.   Fortunately our programs promote resilience and strengthen children’s ability to cope with their exposure to violence, improves the mother’s emotional state and her parenting skills, and enhances parent-child…

Human Options Fall Luncheon Event Raises Nearly $200,000

IRVINE, Calif., (October 14, 2021) – Human Options hosted its annual Fall Luncheon on October 14 at the Marriott Irvine Spectrum, and via live-stream, to help educate and raise awareness about relationship violence. The event, held during National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, raised nearly $200,000 to support Human Options’ relationship violence programs, including a 24-hour hotline, emergency shelter, transitional housing, counseling program, legal advocacy and community education. The event featured a conversation with journalist, author, and domestic violence advocate Rachel Louise Snyder, highlighting the theme of her book, No Visible Bruises: What We Don’t Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us. Named a top 10 best book of 2019 by…

Helping Victims of Relationship Violence Navigate the Legal System

Our legal system is complex, and without adequate resources and services, navigating the legal system is even harder. Our Legal Advocacy Program has seen a heightened increase in need for services and have been able to help families through the support of pro-bono attorneys, like O’Melveny & Meyers LLP. Our partnership has been critical in helping victims and survivors navigate the legal system.  To read more click the digital issue here on pages 46 and 47.

Success Stories: Benjamin’s Story

Benjamin was married to his partner, Ken, for 8 years. Things were going great. Ben and Ken were happy and getting along. They were ready to start a family and eventually had the opportunity to adopt their daughter, Ana, just a few years after they were married. As they entered a new chapter in their lives, things took a turn and the honeymoon phase was over. One night, Ken got drunk and grabbed Benjamin by the wrist and pulled him down to the couch to watch TV with him.  As he tried to walk away, he pushed him against the counter and started aggressively hitting him. Benjamin was able to…

Success Stories: Miranda’s Story

Thinking that dating after abuse was impossible, Miranda found love and hope once more. After five years of breaking free from her abusive partner, Miranda thought she and her children were finally free from all the trauma they endured and could start over. Until one night, her abusive partner showed up to Miranda’s new home, threatening to kill her and her new partner. Miranda’s way for safety was to obtain a Restraining Order.    Miranda called the South Orange County Family Resource Center seeking help from one of our Legal Advocates. In the past, Miranda had attempted to obtain a Domestic Violence Temporary Restraining Order (DVTRO) against her ex-partner, but…

CA Health Report: The Pandemic Spurred a Domestic Violence Epidemic. It’s Not Over Yet.

Since the stay-at-home orders went into effect last year, we have seen a 50% rise in hotline calls and request for help. “It’s not necessarily that being home made the (abuser) violent. But the escalation occurs because there’s no reprieve from tension.” – Maricela Rios-Faust, CEO, shared in the latest CA Health Report. To read about the effects of the pandemic on victims and survivors of relationship violence, check out the latest article from the CA Health Report featuring Human Options: https://www.calhealthreport.org/2021/07/29/the-pandemic-spurred-a-domestic-violence-epidemic-its-not-over-yet/

Success Stories: Cindy’s Story

When Cindy married her husband at age 19, she would have never imagined what the next 50 years with her husband would be like. Her husband would call her names, threaten her with weapons, and demean her in front of friends and family. Growing up in a strong Catholic family, Cindy did not believe in divorce. Cindy married with the intent to be “a good wife and mother”, but did not understand it meant she had to endure her husband’s behavior and abuse….til’ death do they part?   Cindy is 69 years old, scared, alone, and living in darkness. She attempted to get help once 15 years ago when she…

Success Stories: Joe’s Story

When 74-year-old Joe became a widower four years ago, his life and well-being were more at-risk than at any point in his entire life. Joe’s son Kevin, who was continuing to battle an addiction to prescription drugs, had always lived with Joe and his wife. Joe has been emotionally and physically abused by his son for many years, but things became more extreme when his wife passed. For the next year, Joe endured and continued to be physically and financially abused, having no access to his finances to get help. When Joe was finally seen by neighbors with having scratches and marks on his face and arms, a report was…

Success Stories: Mariah’s Story

Mariah worked as a successful insurance agent and the primary provider for her and her two children. Mariah was very social and outgoing. She played softball for a league in her community, with lots of support from her family and friends, mainly her mom, who was an Air-Force Veteran. Mariah had previously left her abusive partner and was living in her own apartment, but reconciled with him just prior to the pandemic. Although Mariah was able to recognize the cycle of abuse she was experiencing with her partner, she had reconciled in hopes her partner had changed and the abuse never happen again. During the pandemic, Mariah lost her job,…

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