By Arezoo Shahbazi Roa, MSW, Sr. Prevention & Strategic Partnerships Director
The holidays can be a season of sparkling lights, laughter, and togetherness. Yet, for many survivors of relationship violence, this time of year can also bring shadows, memories of pain, reminders of loss, and the pressure to appear joyful when healing is still underway. But within every survivor is a quiet strength, a spark that can bring light to even the darkest winter nights.
This year, I want to share the story of Maya, a survivor whose journey through the holidays reminds us all that hope and healing are possible, even when the world feels overwhelming.
Maya remembers the holidays as a time when she felt most alone. The gatherings she once loved became sources of anxiety, as she navigated complicated family dynamics and the echoes of past abuse. The pressure to “be merry” felt impossible when her heart was heavy with grief and uncertainty. But Maya also remembers the moment she decided to reclaim the season for herself.
Instead of forcing herself into old traditions, Maya created new ones. She found comfort in small rituals: lighting a candle each evening to honor her resilience, writing letters to herself filled with words of encouragement, and reaching out to a support group where she could share her feelings without fear of judgment. She learned that it was okay to say no to invitations that didn’t feel safe, and to seek out spaces, both physical and emotional and most importantly, where she could breathe freely. Maya’s journey wasn’t easy. There were days when the weight of the past threatened to pull her under. But with each step, she discovered new sources of strength: the friend who checked in with a simple text, the counselor who reminded her that healing isn’t linear, and the community that stood beside her, offering understanding instead of expectations.
The holidays may stir up old wounds, but they can also be a time to nurture your own well-being. It’s okay to honor your boundaries, to choose rest over obligation, and to seek support when you need it. Healing is not about erasing the past, but about building a future where you feel safe, empowered, and free. If this season feels difficult, remember Maya’s candle, a small, steady light that grows brighter with each act of self-compassion. Reach out to those who understand and let yourself imagine new traditions that bring you peace. Your story is still unfolding, and you have the power to shape it with courage and care.
At Human Options, we believe in the strength of survivors and the possibility of renewal. Whether you’re taking your first steps toward healing or continuing a journey you began long ago, know that support is always within reach. This holiday season, may you find moments of comfort, connection, and hope, because you deserve nothing less.
At Human Options, we are dedicated 24/7 to supporting survivors of relationship violence throughout the year, especially during challenging times like holidays. Know that you are not alone. You are worthy of love, safety, and peace. You have the strength to navigate this season and continue your path toward healing. For more information, call our hotline at 877-854-3594 or visit humanoptions.org.
