When Jordan reflected on life before coming to Human Options, she shared that she once believed her abuser was the love of their life. Jordan described herself as a deeply devoted parent. Her commitment to being a “great parent” made her believe that staying in the relationship was the best choice for the children, even if it meant sacrificing personal happiness.
Over time, her marriage became increasingly harmful. Jordan experienced ongoing emotional and physical abuse. Jordan shared that while she believed she could endure the pain herself, everything changed the moment he hurt one of their children. It was the first time he abused them instead of her. In that moment, Jordan found the courage to reach out for help and was connected to Human Options.
When Jordan first arrived at our shelter, she appeared fearful and anxious. Jordan often hesitated to ask questions and apologized when asking for support. Jordan shared that advocating for herself felt unfamiliar. With time and consistent support, Jordan began stepping outside of her comfort zone. She grew more confident asking for help, whether requesting resources, reaching out to her case manager, or acknowledging emotions. She asked to speak privately with her case managers while her children were asleep so that she could shield them from seeing her fear or sadness.
Jordan formed friendships with other participants at the shelter, learned to set boundaries, and began speaking with greater confidence. The person who once struggled to ask for support began to reclaim her voice.
After completing our shelter program, Jordan transitioned into permanent housing, finding safety and stability beyond the shelter. She understood healing did not end there, continuing to participate in our supportive services as she worked to move forward from trauma. With strength and intention, Jordan finally felt safe and empowered, and even found strength in supporting someone else in need. Seeing this transformation, from arriving fearful and uncertain to feeling empowered to help another survivor, reflects the lasting impact of safety, support, and healing.
