By: Arezoo Shahbazi Roa, MSW, Prevention & Community Education Director
January is recognized as Stalking Awareness Month. Understanding stalking as an abusive tactic in relationship violence is something we need to talk about openly. Stalking is often viewed as an isolated crime, but it can also be a pervasive tactic in the context of relationship violence. When a partner resorts to stalking, it represents a blend of control, intimidation, and obsession, deeply impacting the victim’s mental and emotional well-being.
Stalking can manifest in many ways, think of unwanted texts, nonstop phone calls, or someone showing up at your home or workplace uninvited. In the context of relationship violence, these behaviors are often used to control and intimidate victims, creating an environment of fear that can be hard to escape, feeling trapped, paranoid, or unsafe, even in their own homes. In abusive relationships, stalking serves as a mechanism for control. Abusers often use stalking to instill fear and maintain dominance over their partners. By closely monitoring their actions, abusers create a suffocating environment where victims feel they have no autonomy or escape.
Outside of the physical dangers and implications, the psychological impact of stalking is extreme. Imagine constantly feeling like someone is watching you or waiting for you around every corner. This anxiety can lead to serious emotional distress, including depression and trauma. Many survivors describe living in a state of hyper-vigilance, which complicates their daily lives and other relationships. It’s not just about stalking itself; it’s the entire web of trauma that can follow. The constant feeling of being watched can lead to isolation as victims withdraw from friends and family, further entrenching them in the abusive dynamic.
Recognizing stalking behaviors is an essential first step. If someone consistently shows up where you are without an invitation, that’s a red flag. Consider talking to someone or getting help. If you notice stalking behaviors happening with a loved one, try having open discussions which may empower your loved one to seek help. Support from friends, family, and professionals can potentially be lifesaving.
If you think someone you care about is experiencing stalking, your support can make a significant difference. Sometimes, just being there to listen can be incredibly validating. Please encourage them to reach out to professionals who can provide tailored assistance and help them think through a safety plan.
At Human Options, we are dedicated 24/7 to supporting survivors of relationship violence. You are not alone. We are here to help. For more information call our hotline at 877-854-3594 or visit humanoptions.org.
